Why the People You Love Don’t Motivate You?


You know I don't think we give enough credit to people that mistreated us in our life. YES! People that mistreated you, betrayed you, back-stabbed you, said something negative about you. Maybe your parent that left you. A father that left you or mother that didn't want to see you again and we can go on and on as everyone know their story. I personally don't think we give enough credit to those people and we should give them credit. 

I think we give too much credit of motivation to the people that are very good to us. By the way more power to people that are very good to us THOUGH MOTIVATION DOESN'T COME FROM THERE.

Think about this way...lemme go personal alittle bit. You know how many people I have seen writing business plans and I ask them, tell me why are you doing this on your personal level? and they say ohh because I want to retire my mum! and I am "Really?" So, six months later, they are not moving, they quit their business, they shut down and again I ask, what happened? I think you really wanted to retire your mum? the answer is NO. Well, whose been nicer to you than your mum? how come there is no motivation now? Well, I see alot of people saying I am doing this for my kids...really, YES hmm...later you come in late, you are not running your office well, you know your company shutdown, your office then you go back to normal job. What happened though? Didn't you love your kids? I LOVE MY KIDS. How come you didn't create urgency, move faster, how come you didn't come to office alittle early in the morning and work hard or rather smarter? Doesn't mean you don't love your kids? No!

Okay, let me tell you something. Do you know how many people I know and their motivation came because one person said, YOU WILL NEVER MAKE IT? another one said YOU WILL NEVER WIN WITHOUT ME! or your significant left you and never came back and called back once you started winning. You know how many stories are like that? or your friend or someone close to you told you that YOU WILL NEVER SUCCEED IN LIFE. Those are the things that moves and motivate people.

It is very easy to say, Ohh my gosh, it is only for the people I love. That's not how it works my article reader. Before I wrote this article, I made a list of 20 people on what moved them to do big things they are doing today. None of main reasons of the people I made a list of them moved them with the people they loved the most. The motivation  for the people they love the most was on the top five or wasn't on number one on the list. There wasn't. They didn't create that urgency at all.

Personally, I love my haters. I can't say how much I love them. I am very grateful for them. I am not trying to give you one of this blah blah positive talk like sweet, nice, seductive etc. Believe me! Lemme tell you why I love them...they don't have any clue what kind of FIRE they created in me. You know how many lists of names I have with phrases and things they said to me? I have them all. So this article isn't about me, it is about you. Yes, you who is getting this message.

What are you doing? Do you think it is for the people you love? Maybe one of the reasons has moved you really really! It move you.  If something moves you, no one can stop you. I don't measure how many hours I work a week but I know how many hours I want a week. If people realize like how many hours they put in, it may scare some of the people but there is a deeper motivation. I mean deeper, deeper motivation. You've got to figure it out. DO YOU? HAVE YOU?

If you figured it out...Imagine a source like it...imagine everything is going well and you strike oil...like somewhere in the Middle-East type of oil, Texas oil, Venezuela oil, Alaska oil and it never stops. Continous income. You know what I am saying? That's the kind of motivation I am talking about. NEVER STOPS. So, stop discounting people that mistreated you! Stop discounting the statements they made to you! And realize many of those people can be the reason why you ended up doing what you do in your life that's big. Very big.

Do me a favor right after reading this;
Make a list, write the phrases down and tell yourself, I am doing for my kids, I am doing for my wife, I am doing for my husband, my family, my mum, my dad, imma teach them...it is secret. Never forget what your ex-boyfriend said to you, never forget what your ex-girlfriend said to you or ex-wife, ex-husband...you can make it. YES, YOU CAN MAKE IT. People say or complain, ohh my parents dont support me, they say I can't make it. 
I am glad you are getting rejections, I am glad you are getting pain. I am glad it bothers you. I hope it keeps you up night. I hope it makes you wanna do more. Make a list of top ignitors. What they said to you. Every day read and see what kind of feeling you get. Don't get angry, get jerked up. Visualize when it becomes reality...and instead work and do something big. Be positive reading those. 

Hey I hope this message resonates with you, I hope you kill every day you have in life...work smart, work hard. Take care...bye bye. 


Dear My Esteemed Reader,

Over the last months, many of you have asked me, where I am now, why I create content and openly share with you. The answer is quite simple yet emotional as well. Simple because I believe the content I share can get anyone results. Emotional because I know how close I was to giving up and just being average and ordinary. How close I was to just throwing in the towel. How close I was to believing my critics that I wasn’t good enough to compete in the market place with my skills, knowledge and innovative mindset I have. I never thought I would wake up one day running a software development firm which impact community positively with Newton as one of my partner and other investors on board. I never thought I’d create a brand called “VINYSOFT” that inspires and impact community posively with great services around the world. I never thought I would get to a point of having millionaires, politicians, influencers and celebrities on speed dial. But something changed. I am CLEAR on what I want and who I want to be. I am CLEAR on a problem solving strategy that helps me alot. I am CLEAR on effective strategies and hacks that helped and continously helping me grow in good times and bad times. I am CLEAR on the type of a person, leader I want to be and the type of a team I want to build.

Sincere Much love,


Victor NYANGULE

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